I think if you read back through everyone's advice you'll get the answer. You will have to kick most of them. Keep repeating your expectations (chat, donate, opt in to war, use both attacks), and only keep allies who meet them. The ratio of good allies to bad is about 1 to 100, so you will be kicking a lot.
For the players who are worth keeping, get them to watch replays of your low level account attacks. Explain what you did and why. Issue friendly challenges and ask them to mimic what you did.